Psychic-ology and the Art of Managing Expectations

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Noami, you've just described me in this article. I tend to assume that my boyfriend know what I'm thinking and get extremely cranky when I realised that he doesn't.<br><br>I think most of the time, I was more cranky at myself for not setting the right expectation than at him for not able to read my mind. It's definitely something to keep in mind when we communicate with other people.<br>

December 17, 2009 - 7:57pm
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Bao, I guess I described you -- and myself -- and no doubt many others. This tendency to expect others to know what we're thinking is a common human foible. I can relate to your comment about being cranky at yourself. When I get annoyed with my husband for not knowing what I was thinking or what I wanted, deep down I know it's myself I'm annoyed with. Most of us, I guess, are a bit deficient as mind readers. ~Naomi

December 18, 2009 - 5:26am
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I can relate to your comment about being cranky at yourself.

January 18, 2010 - 5:13pm
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Thanks for your comment, Joy. I have a feeling a lot of us can relate to this cranky-at-myself thing. Our first reaction is often to accuse someone else, but if we really think about it, we realize we're actually annoyed with ourselves, not the other person. ~Naomi

January 19, 2010 - 1:42am
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Great! The articles so far have been full of great material. Glad to hear the serious will continue. Keep 'em coming!

February 6, 2010 - 7:21pm
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Thanks so much, Joy. I do intend to keep 'em coming! ~Naomi

February 6, 2010 - 7:21pm

About the author

Naomi Karten's picture Naomi Karten

Naomi Karten is a highly experienced speaker and seminar leader who draws from her psychology and IT backgrounds to help organizations improve customer satisfaction, manage change, and strengthen teamwork. She has delivered seminars and keynotes to more than 100,000 people internationally. Naomi's newest books are Presentation Skills for Technical Professionals and Changing How You Manage and Communicate Change. Her other books and ebooks include Managing Expectations, Communication Gaps and How to Close Them, and How to Survive, Excel and Advance as an Introvert. Readers have described her newsletter, Perceptions & Realities, as lively, informative, and a breath of fresh air. She is a regular columnist for StickyMinds.com. When not working, Naomi's passion is skiing deep powder. Contact her at naomi@nkarten.com or via her Web site, www.nkarten.com.

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