made difficult when a coach is too concerned about doing it right or not meeting the client’s expectations. It’s important to stay unattached to being perfect in that role, no matter the extent of your training.
To intentionally not assume the role of expert with all the answers, a coach should try on language like, “let’s say what we both mean on this by expressing it another way, so we can both be clearer on it…” or “I don’t feel clear here, so help me hear what you mean another way…” or “I don’t have the answer here, so let’s look together,” and “Can you help me better understand why last week you stated this as your goal and now we’re talking about X?” This type of language doesn’t blame, is open and expresses a desire for clarity.
There are many tricks of the trade, but with or without formal training, if you’re coaching others, you must stay committed to the other person and not to your own “looking good” or “doing it right.” Trust your instincts in working with others, and remember the benefits of being agile. If you know you can’t make a mistake because you can always share honestly and course correct, then you will have the confidence you need to serve another person, while you improve your coaching skills along the way.
For coaches who want to receive more formal training, consider a certified coach training school and certification process as recognized through The International Coach Federation: http://www.coachfederation.org/