you are. Just notice and pause. After a while, you can decide if you want to continue this way or change.
Pairing is good for coaches, too. Maybe even essential. Cultivate a group of colleagues you can call on when you feel a failure mode start to take hold. These are people who can commiserate with you and remind you: you're going for high-performance; for a self-monitoring, self-adjusting team. And, with that renewed goal firmly in mind, you can put the ego in check, focus your attention and get ready to coach from a place of trust.
 See, for example, John Kabat-Zinn, A.D.D. Nation in Coming to our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World through Mindfulness , Hyperion: 2006. Also, Linda Stone, Continuous Partial Attention - Not the Same as Multitasking , Business Week, July 2008. For a recent example of disastrous results when multitasking, see articles on the California train crash that killed 25, like this article on CNN.com .
 Noel Tichy. The Cycle of Leadership, How Great Leaders Teach their Companies to Win . Harper Business: 2002. 161.
 Any books on mindfulness meditation by John Kabat-Zinn are a great way to start a mindfulness practice. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life ( Hyperion: 2005) is a winner, as are John's audio books and meditation tapes. One such audio book is Mindfulness for Beginners (Sounds True: 2006).